Tuesday, 13 May 2008

Apologies in Advance ...

So guess who had an ultrasound yesterday? No - not me .... my husband. Because there is something wrong, and the doctors don't know what! He could need an operation! Or, it might be cancer! Or, just a twisted stomach muscle!

Hooray for choices!

I'm quite (VERY) freaked out about it. I just want us all to be ok ..... I NEED us to all be ok.

I want to cry, but can't seem to.

Mr TC just rang ... the doctor doesn't know what it is, got an opinion from a surgeon, doesn't know either. He had an ultrasound and x-ray yesterday, today they booked him in for a cat scan. Mr TC thinks it's his intestine ... every time he eats, he gets sick, he's bloated, and feels like 'something's leaking in there.'

I feel like I need to start writing the dates down of all these procedures he's getting, to keep track.

It's all fun and games up here, really.


Nearlydawn said...

I'm really sorry that you and your Mom have no common ground to stand on and work out what's wrong between you. It must really suck, bigtime. I can't imagine how that must be, but I hope you make your way through this tough time.

I'm hoping Mr. TC is OK. I can't imagine being told they don't know what it is, but still being so terribly sick!

Bee Cee said...

What a sad story about your Mum. I don't think it would be good for you if she was there when Monkey was born, you want this birth to be much more of a nice memory than the last one. I don't think there's anything wrong in saying you want it to just be you and Mr TC.

Maybe after things have settled down after the birth you can think about involving your Mum, if that's what you want.

I just think it's the one time, you need to do exactly what you want.

I hope Mr TC's CAT scan goes ok, just another worry you don't need.

Angie said...

I'm really hoping Mr. TC is okay. I could not imagine.

Wordgirl said...

Hi Topcat,

No need to apologize about ranting -- our mothers are the main things that tangle up our lives I think -- truly -- and you have every right to be angry.

I deeply get what you're saying -- and I will be thinking of you and Mr TC & Tiger & Monkey..

.may this particular chapter pass quickly and be something minor -- perhaps he's just trying to distract you :)

*big hug*


Fertilized said...

What horrible news about Mr TC. I hope they find something to help him very soon.

As for your mum - I do not know how you do what you do. Holding your tongue and all. I need to take lessons from you and my husband

thinking of you

Gemini Girl said...

My thoughts are with MR. TC. I pray its something surgery can fix. I know the timing is HORRIBLE- maybe its also caused by his stress (maybe a bleeding ulcer?) Please let me know what happens, as I will be thinking of you.

BTW- Do NOT have your mother at the birth. She will only stress you out- that is the last thing you need. Tell it like it is to her face- just like she was unsympathetic with you.

Have your sisters there if they can be.

ultimatejourney said...

I hope everything's okay with Mr. TC.

It sounds like you've been awfully accommodating of your mother over the years. I agree with the others that you should not allow her at Monkey's birth.

Sassy said...

I'm so sorry. I hope Mr TC can get things sorted out soon and it's nothing to worry about. And I hope you can find a way to live with your mother. It can't be easy holding your relationship together after all of that but you should be really proud of yourself for giving it a go. Many people wouldn't bother.

OHN said...

Long ago my motherinlaw told me something that has stuck with me. She said it is a passage into adulthood when you realize that your parents are not the perfect people we wish they were. I decided many years ago that I would cut my father out of my life. I did and never looked back. When he died, I was not sad that he died, only that he never bothered to really get to know me and it was his loss. Don't blow smoke up your mom's butt, let her know that being with her is not easy for you. It is NOT your fault.

I hope Mr. TC has something easily treatable...I know the last thing you need right now is more stress!

m said...

She's too toxic for you right now - you need love and support and no 'issues' - yay for you for being strong!

Thinking of you