Wednesday, 14 May 2008

We just got back from the cancer clinic. Looks like Mr TC has some form of 'systematic lymphoma' in his stomach/intestines.

He is in extreme pain, the doctor is going to find a surgeon for him asap, hopefully tomorrow. He needs to be opened up, to see how advanced it is and how far it has spread.

I cannot believe I am typing this.

The doctor said it's likely he will need chemo.

We sat in the waiting room that was full of old people and there was a wicker basket of free knitted beanies.

He probably won't be there when Monkey is born, we will be in different hospitals.

We are both in shock.

37 comments:

m said...

Fuck. I'm speechless. I wish I had something comforting for you, just know I'm thinking of you and sending love.

x

Vee said...

Topcat, I am so sorry to hear your news.
Having recently gone through it with Max I understand how you are feeling.

Take your time to digest it and please don't hesitate on getting a second opinion.

Wishing you the very best of outcome. If you need to to connect with some going through please email me on veelife at gmail.com
Hugs to you

ultimatejourney said...

I'm so sorry.

Wordgirl said...

Oh Topcat.


My first thought is: Thank God for your sisters -- but I do wish I met you in 'real life' and that you lived in my town. I would come over and just be there.

It sounds so silly but if you ever want to email me I hope you will. Pkbosch(at symbol)gmaildotcom

My thoughts and heart are with you.

Pam

Fertilized said...

oh my saddness!

Jen said...

I'm just sitting here with my mouth hanging open in shock. I'm so sorry you both have to be going through this at this time (or at any time, really). I wish there was something I could do.

Try your best to hang in there. I'm keeping you in my thoughts.

Lori said...

Oh, TC. I got the news from Pam.

I'm so sorry you and your husband are faced with this. My thoughts are with you all.

{{{Hugs.}}}

r.a.w. said...

Oh, Topcat! I cannot even believe this! I will be saying so many prayers for you, Mr. TC, Tiger and Monkey. Praying for all the best. Love you.

Gumby said...

I'm so sorry! I heard from Pam too.

I don't know much about the various types of cancer but I'm crossing my fingers and hoping that this is one of the "easy" ones that can be zapped with chemo and/or snipped out...

Sending hopeful thoughts your way.

kjames106 said...

Sorry to hear this! I've got my prayers going for you family!

Chas said...

I don't even know what to say...I'm just so sorry you guys are having to endure this...especially now. You are both in my prayers!

Gemini Girl said...

Oh TC! Above all else I am praying. I know that this is happenieng at a time where there should only be joy.... but life hands people unexpected turns as well. I pray for MR tc- I pray for you. Please have your sisters at the birth. You need friends and family now. Sending you my love across the pond.

Diana said...

OMG, this is just shocking and awful. I am so sorry for your whole family. I wish you much strength.

Bee Cee said...

I am so sorry TC. My thoughts are with you both. This is just too much, I am so so shocked. Take care.

JJ said...

Shit, TC....I am SO sorry to hear this..you all are in my prayers.

waitinginline said...

My heart, thoughts, and prayers go out to you all.

vamplita said...

Sending positive and loving vibes your way! Take care of each other, and try not to sweat the small stuff. Y'all need to watch out for each other, and don't let bullshit from others affect you and yours, mom included.

It's time to circle the wagons with those you love and trust, sweetie. To hell with those who can't understand that. Seriously.

Dee said...

Oh, Topcat, I am so incredibly shocked, as I'm sure both you and Mr. TC are, at this news. I wish there was more I could say or do to help lessen the fear, anger, shock, you name it.

Please know that I'm thinking of you all across the miles and hoping for the very best.

The Town Criers said...

Topcat, I am so sorry. I am sending so many good thoughts to you and your whole family.

Kristen said...

I'm so sorry to hear of this news. I will be praying for you and your family. XOXO

OHN said...

Oh TC, what a shock! A year from now it will all be a thing of the past but right now it has to be so frightening and maddening at the same time. TC needs to catch a break! Please ask your sis's to be with you for the delivery. All of us blog friends would be there if we could :) Please know we are thinking about all of you.

anna said...

Oh my gosh...I'm so sorry! As if the new baby isn't enough right now, this is the last thing you needed, right?! I'm sending you lots of best wishes and prayers that this badness is soon a distant memory as your little family enjoys your new baby!

Katie said...

I am so sorry to hear this. I will be praying for you and your family.

Geohde said...

Shit, Topcat.

Crap.

I know there's probably very little I can do from inside your computer, but if you think of anything, let me know.

xx

J

Evil Stepmonster said...

Faaark TC! What a horrible shock. I don't know what to say, except that I am thinking of you both.

Pepper said...

I am so sorry. The first thing I thought when I read your post was how unfair this all is and how the timing was just so hard. I'll be sending good thoughts your way along with wishes for your family's safety and good health.

Mony said...

OMG. TC.
I can't believe this.
What the hell is going on? What is GOING ON? I am so shocked & worried. I feel dizzy.
Stunned. I'm so speechless.

Stacie said...

Topcat,

I don't know what to say other than I am sending you and Mr. TC love, support, and hugs. This is just unbelieveable.

Please take care of yourself the best you can while you nurse Mr. TC back to health. I know firsthand what a medical crisis does to everyone in the family.

All of you will be in my prayers.

P.S. If you ever want to talk or vent about asshole doctors (I hope you don't ever have one, but they seem to be everywhere), you know where I am at.

Much love,
Stacie

Sassy said...

I am so sorry.

Jen said...

Holy shit. I am speechless and so very sorry. Sending lots of positive thoughts and hugs your way!

Dr. Grumbles said...

Crap.

I am so sorry, Topcat.

r.a.w. said...

I don't know why I am commenting again because I still don't know what to say. But I just want you to know how much I am thinking of you.

Love,
Bec

The Dunn Family said...

Topcat. I don't even know what to say. I am so sorry for you and Mr TC to be dealing with this. I will be sending you love and just know you are in my thoughts!

Nearlydawn said...

Wow, that is NOT what I expected this post to be about... I am in shock. I just cannot imagine being in your shoes right now.

I so hope you will keep us all up to date on the happenings. If there is anything you need you know you just have to say the word and your bloggy friends will do the best we can to help you.

Cibele said...

I ma so sad and heartborken for you. I hope all goes well with you, your husband and the baby. Hugs

christina(apronstrings) said...

oh sweetheart. i can't imagine. i am so, so sorry.
thinking of you both. all.

xoxoxo

Vacant Uterus said...

Came here via M-A. I'm so, so sorry to hear all of this. You're in my thoughts.

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